11 Things Most Photographers Won't Tell You (Aided by New Girl Memes)

As an avid watcher of New Girl (Nick and Jess... will they? Won't they?! COME ON!), I feel like one of the best ways to fully express my feelings in this situation is with memes from the show. If you're not a watcher, the show is currently available on Netflix. I suggest you do yourself a favor, and binge your face off.

Now, on to 11 things most photographers probably won't tell you---aided by New Girl memes!

1. They get really excited when you email them!

While you might just be casually hunting for prices, getting an inquiry for wedding photography from you can put a serious pep in their step! Learning about a new couple from their love story to their wedding day details is what drives many photographers and fuels their passion. Hence the cheering.


2. They get even more excited when you book. 

While this one is probably obvious, you probably don't realize just how excited photographers get when you book. They would probably freak you out with their unfiltered giddiness, so they play it cool. In truth though, a wedding booking can make their day, season, or year. Your actions at a future client likely have more power than you realize.

3. Consultations sometimes feel like a job interview. 

They're friendly; they're informative; and they feel like there's something on the line they care about: getting to photograph your wedding! Everything in them wants you to know they're the right person for the job, so don't be surprised when they show up in a blazer and pass you their proverbial resumé.

4. Engagement sessions are like wedding day training. 

Most photographers will tell you they want you to feel comfortable with one another before the wedding day. What they might not say is that because wedding day portrait times typically go very quickly (and can have unexpected delays because of things like weather), having experience with their posing and shooting style can make a potentially hectic wedding day experience feel like a walk in the park (but with fancier clothes).

5. The schedule is their baby!

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While photographers love to help you make a schedule that makes your wedding day go smoothly, they also know that it's crucial to making sure you get the photos you want and need. Deviating from the schedule could mean more stress and less photos. A little planning from your resident wedding expert (ahem... your photographer) can make all the difference.

6. They have a love/hate relationship with videographers.

While they try to get along with videographers, working with them can be something of a complicated dance! The pairing of video and photography is incomparable on a wedding day (and both are necessary parts of story-telling), but trying to juggle the space and time needed for both parties to get the shots they want is... tricky. Hence a Montague-Capulet-esque rivalry, until the end of time.

7. Your marriage means a lot to them. 

Even though weddings are something they see and attend considerably more than the average person, it doesn't mean that they are desensitized to the incredible covenant happening between you and your future spouse. They might be hiding their tears behind their camera as you exchange vows, but they certainly don't want people to catch them getting emotional while shooting. They are, more than you know, a cheerleader for your marriage, so naturally, cue the tears.

8. Seeing their photos printed through a sub-par lab is cringe-worthy.

Photographers understand that you want an affordable guest book at your wedding and you want to decorate your home with photos, but it can be rather painful for them to show up to a wedding and see that the images they worked so hard to edit to perfection were printed through a lab that doesn't calibrate their monitors or printers. Most photographers will gladly edit an album free of charge if you order them, saving you time and in essence money.

9. But they love it when they see their photos printed through a preferred lab!


On the flip side, when they their images printed through a professional grade lab, they freak out. Little will make your photographer happier than printing the images through a lab that will honor the beautiful edits, time, and energy they put into your imagery. They will give you the shiniest gold star for doing so!

10. They can't wait to know what you think of the photos they took. 

It's not uncommon for photographers to edit photos, deliver the gallery earlier than expected, and then hear nothing from the clients. Many photographers just want to know you liked what they photographed. Even though you are probably so excited to look at your gallery, a quick note to say you safely received (and loved) the images is more appreciated than you know (and avoids some major awkwardness).

11. At the end of the day, photographers just want you to be happy. 

All the scheduling, booking, nervous energy, and fancy details aside, photographers more than anything just want you to be happy! Little makes a photographer happier than knowing that you not only liked your images, but that your wedding day was made better by their presence. That's worthy of petal-throwing for sure!

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Six Questions Brides Ask Before Booking (With Answers!)

With wedding season just around the corner, brides have a lot of questions on their minds about what their photography journey is going to look like. While every photographer does things differently, I'm going to quickly share my answers to a few commonly asked questions from brides during consultations. Let's dive in!

Can/should we do a first look? What is a first look?

Whether it's describing a first look or deciding whether or not to have one, every consultation encounters this topic! In the past, I used to attempt to persuade every couple to have a first look (where the groom sees the bride before the ceremony), because I thought it made the schedule easier, however, I realized that approaching the wedding from that angle was not prioritizing the wedding day experience for my bride and groom. Now I'm happy to discuss the pros and cons of the first look with my future couples to help them decide what works best for them!

The image below is of Haylee and Andrew during their First Look in Manhattan last summer. They were so sweet and so happy to see each other!

Will you pose us?

Because everyone wants to know they're going to look good in their photos, couples frequently ask me if I will pose them. Call me a control freak, but I couldn't imagine photographing someone without posing them!

Over the years, I've done my best to learn how to pose clients in a way that looks natural and flattering, while still leaving room for them to let their natural emotions show. To get a better idea of what that looks like, every portrait on my web-site (apart from candids) has been posed. Rest easy, and know that you're going to look beautiful and feel like yourself!

Here are Anna & Brett solidly rocking out a walking pose!

Can we have a second shooter? What will the second shooter do?

While every wedding doesn't need a second shooter (aka a second photographer), I'm always happy to discuss the pros and cons (much like a first look) with my couples.  When I have a second shooter, I prefer they act first as an assistant and second as a photographer.

For years I've been a one-woman-show, and I pride myself in my ability to adequately capture the story of wedding days singlehandedly. However, when days have more complicated schedules or when weddings are more large scale, it's occasionally helpful to have another set of hands on board. My assistants help with everything from running errands, assisting the bride and groom, and taking photos of extra moments on wedding days.

The reason I'm able to photograph weddings by myself is mostly because I work with the bride and groom to create a schedule that allows me to be in all of the key places as the most important things are happening. Despite that, I'm always happy to bring someone on board if need be.

Do you travel? If so, what do you charge?

Traveling is one of the most exciting perks of being a wedding photographer! While every photographer has different policies with travel, I've tried to streamline this potentially tricky process as much as possible. My travel guidelines are the same whether it's a wedding or a photo session. They are as follows:

  • Travel within 60 miles of my location is included
  • Travel after that is charged by the mile
  • Depending on the timeline/location, lodging, airfare, and car rental might be required

How do we book and save our date?

Booking is something that I want to over-simplify for my clients, because the topic typically comes up mid-consultation, and I want to be able to explain it easily. The entire process from paying their retainer to signing their contract is completed online through my client management software. While every photographer has a different method, I've found that the following format is very easy to follow and works well for me and my clients:

  • Pay a 30% non-refundable retainer fee (amount based on collection total, reserves date)
  • Complete contract online
  • Pay collection remainder one month prior to wedding

When should we expect our images?

While potential clients don't always ask when and how their images will be delivered, it's something that I like to cover because eventually they will want to know.  Not only that, but setting achievable expectations early is always helpful for them, and it sets me up for success! All of my brides are told that they will receive their wedding day images in 4-6 weeks, and that is being generous. Under promise and over deliver is my philosophy here, so I try to get images out as soon as possible!

Hopefully these questions for insightful for brides, grooms, and photographers alike! If you have more questions, always feel free to comment below or reach out to me on Instagram @rosewheat or e-mail emma[at]rosewheat[dot]com!